then dressed up in a pretty skirt and lacy shirt.
Having problems concentrating.
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Safe spaces
I’ve been thinking a lot about safe spaces. And I can’t help thinking about my experience at Folsom St. Fair this year.
The fair itself felt like an amazingly safe space. Sure, there was lots of skin even to the point of completely naked people walking around on leashes. In the midst of all this obvious sexuality and exhibitionism the most common thing I overheard was people asking for permission to touch, or even take pictures.
This is so different than most places. In many places the assumption is that touch is welcome unless it is explicitly negated. At Folsom, the assumption is that touch is unwelcome unless it’s explicitly permitted.
In fact, walking down Market street in my new corset was much braver than getting into the corset at the fair. At the fair, I was just another person on exhibit. But I was secure that no one would touch, without my (or Cam’s) permission. On Market, no one would touch but the looks were … different. I was very grateful for a protective male next to me.
Things they don’t tell you about being married
A few months ago there was a ‘lifestyle’ article at CNN that listed a number of drawbacks to being married that no one ever tells you. I won’t mention that clearly people DO tell you as it was on Oprah.com and linked to from the front page of CNN. Hard to pretend those are secrets, y’know?
One of the bad things was: this is the person you’re going to wake up next to for the rest of your life.
Wait, WHAT? This is a drawback? I absolutely adore waking up next to Cam every day. Really.
I’ve come up with my own list of things they don’t tell you about being married.
- It’s awesome. Seriously. Think about the greatest thing that happened to you. Now imagine having that great thing Every Single Day. Nothing prepared me for how great it is to live with someone I love so much.
- It’s hard. Having to consider someone else in every decision? Apologizing even when you don’t really think you were wrong? Living with someone all the time, dealing with their stress as well as your own? Yeah. Hard.
- It’s easy. Having someone around to share the burdens of life? A companion who will bring you a drink (tea, martini, coffee) when you’re too busy. Someone to remind you to take care of yourself when your stress levels go through the roof? It’s easy.
- It’s fun. Shared jokes, shared experiences, shared laughter.
- Cookies.
Being married rocks.
Even after years and years and years.
Stockroom catalog
Our catalog from the Stockroom arrived recently. The mailing envelope was plain brown paper. Inside the envelope was another, white, envelope. This envelope explained they were sorry for wasting paper, but that they were required by law to have a “Adult content” warning. They also didn’t want to embarrass customers, so they used the 2 envelopes. In addition to the warning, they offered a $5.00 off coupon, too.
Nifty marketing, I thought.
New toys are always fun. I need to organize our current toys before we can buy more, though. Maybe that will be today’s project.